During coach trip I got to think about being open and honest - people on this show have to vote other people off the coach and they have to do it in front of the other people and to the person's face... People don't hold back and say exactly what they think. Although, often they look very uncomfortable doing it.. is this a British trait... hating awkward moments and confrontation..?? does this stiffle us?
I wonder what would happen if we did this at work? We often have to sugar coat the way we feel or often just bottle it up. Is this productive? or are we just avoiding sorting out issues that could easily be addressed and resolved etc. Surely the more issues are not discussed.. the more complex and out of control the situation can become.. then a mediator has to untangle the often pointless mess.. where 2 years ago, he said this and she said that. which meant he thought this, which led to this that and the other.. blahh blahh blahhh (Charlie Brown's teacher)..lol and before you know it one person thinks the other person is the devil incarnate.... can being honest sometimes make things worse, or is it worse to bottle up or sugar coat how you really feel?
In a world where being PC is so important and rocking the boat is not always a good option in a business (as mud sticks) - are we saying to little? Are we now scared to say anything at all?? You know what I mean, when people come too you as HR, complaining and then say " but I don't want this going any further"... then starts the process of coaching them to take ownership of the problem and establish what they wish to do next...
So.... do we often avoid saying what we really feel??
Just like a cake... is the icing really important? or should we be more interested in whats under it ? Do we need the sugar coating?? or should the cake be the most important part? Can we really have our cake and eat it? or is it either or?