It’s not uncommon for people at this time of year to talk about their New Year resolutions or the goals they have set. In fact I recently had 3 people ask me this very question in one day.
I am not against this. In fact I have my own process I go through at the end of each year, which involves me looking at every area of my life and setting clear goals for the year ahead. In the last 3 years I’ve also selected a word for the coming year. If you want to know more about this latter process find more information here.
What was really interesting in this recent exchange was that pne person said they had the same resolution as previous years because they never stuck to it…
It is easy to give up when faced with the first, second, or third hurdle, so I thought I’d share part of the process I go through each year.
It allows me to identify my own rules for success that help me stay on track, or at the very least identify what isn’t working.
Reflection on successes
The first step is to reflect over the past year and list, and by that I mean write them down, all the things you achieved. Consider every aspect of your life and everything that was an achievement for you no matter how large or small.
It’s easy for us to forget great things that have happened and put all our focus on what we didn’t do or should have done, which is why we start with what you DID do.
Take time to look at your list and feel good or even great about them and acknowledge all that you have achieved. I’ve known some people to then create their top 10 highlights for the year and it’s very impressive when someone shares these with you too!
Reflection on what you didn’t achieve YET
This second step is important. The mindset you have when approaching this step is equally important. This isn’t about beating yourself up, criticising yourself, or getting into any analysis of what could, should or didn’t happen. It’s simply about recognising that some things, for all sorts of reasons, haven’t been achieved yet.
Again write these down – list them and then move onto the last, and for me the most important, step…
Identify YOUR Rules for Success
Now, with both lists in front of you ask yourself these two questions:
- What was it I did that allowed me to succeed and achieve all that I did last year?
- What were the rules I had that when I follow them I succeeded?
Then, ask yourself:
What were the rules I wasn’t following, that if I had followed, would have allowed me to achieve all those things I haven’t yet?
Make a list of these.
This step is about taking the learning from the previous year to ensure you make the best of the next 12 months.
From what you have written down you can now identify the important things for you to do consistently. This then gives you your own personal rules for success that you know if you follow them enable you to succeed.
Keep them somewhere accessible, so that you can refer to them if you need to. I find that if something isn’t quite working the way I’d hoped, it’s usually because one or more of my own rules are not being followed.
Here are mine for this year:
- Stay connected – to the people I am working with, my own goals and what I care about.
- Be consistent – in all that I do working on and in my business.
- Believe and trust in myself – we all have times when we doubt ourselves and I am no exception.
- Follow through on things I have committed to do for myself as well as my clients
- Do the work required both professionally and personally – this is another way of saying practice what you preach…
I hope this has given you an approach to help keep yourself on track and it would be lovely to hear what your own rules for success are – do let me know at email@example.com
“Success or failure in business is caused more by the mental attitude than by mental capacities.”
Sir Walter Scott
Dawn Bentley is an Executive Coach who works with Leaders in business to deliver extraordinary results, through effective teams with ease and authenticity. She can be contacted at Dawn@aurora4success.co.uk